Before I update my post, I'd like to once again thank author Kim Howe for giving me the chance to interview her. I had a lot of fun with the process.
Please readers, consider voting at the American Title III contest website. Every vote counts and after reading the entries, I really DO believe Kim's entry is stellar. *ahem* At least,that's my opinion. *grin*
Now for a new post:
All of the parenting How-To books talk about the trials and tribulations of our children trying to make friends while simaltaneously learning the social lessons to accomplish that feat. Many times they can only learn by doing.
Excuse me but, what about the PARENTS? I think we need lessons too.
What is the edicate for two adults meeting blindly over the phone because their two kids decided they wanted a play date?
Such was my case last Thursday.
My son called her son.
Within seconds, the phone is thrust in my face,
"Here Mom. You gotta talk."
"Talk? Talk about what? To who?"
Totally bemused and confused I make small talk while rapidly scrambling to rearrange my mental schedule to make this playdate workable.
It was decided that the playdate would happen that Saturday afternoon. Morning was out because of a family obligation. (See my post about Reflection)
So, Saturday afternoon creeps towards us, my kids alternately bouncing from window to window, determined to be the first to spot the arriving guest.
Except the guest never shows.
Being the good Mom, I call and I get this man who says, "She's not here".
"Well, she was supposed to bring her son to play with mine for 1:30. I thought if she needed directions or ..."
"Can't help you, she's not here, don't know where she is."
Well! That was a surprise and a major disappointment for my kids.
A few hours later I call again and ask for her. This time I get a younger male.
"She's not here."
'OH! Well, no problem. Is it alright if I leave a message for her?"
"Sure!" was the enthusiastic response AND THEN HE HANGS UP ON ME!!
When my son goes back to school, I asked him if he saw the boy. He said "yes."
Of course I asked him why they never showed up.
He was told that "they were sick." "They" being mother and younger sister.
But that doesn't make sense does it? Why was I told both times I called that "she wasn't there"? What's wrong with telling me they were sick? I mean, it's a perfectly normal and legitimate reason for not coming on a playdate, right?
Today, a week later, my son comes and tells me the "REAL" reason why they didn't come over.
During the conversation, I mentioned RELIGION!!!!
I guess that is enough to not only prevent her son from playing with my son, but to have the discourtesy of not bothering to call to tell me and my son that the play date was cancelled.
A whole Saturday afternoon was wasted when we could have done something as a family.
So, my question for you.
If someone mentions religion, is that enough to boycott a playdate?
And is lying to children and other adults justified because of it?